if you had only one word to describe JESUS, be it a noun, a value HE represents, a verb, something HE did a lot or mainly, or an adjective, a quality you think suits HIM best, what would it be? Or what is it that makes HIM so absolutely unique?
What differentiates HIM even from all other people who did great things and perhaps even from other (in our belief false, but in their believers beliefs real) gods?
Is it perhaps HIS unfathomable love for us, for everybody?
But how can HE even love everyone?
Is it not because HE has an ability nobody else has, to forgive EVERYTHING, no matter what it may be that a person had done?
HE had to take a lot of criticism for that during HIS earthly ministry.
Eating with tax collectors and sinners…
And I personally don’t believe that it was only because of the times HE lived in.
Imagine someone from your church who would rather “hang out” with criminals and prostitutes and thugs than with “righteous people” – would this person be admired or shunned in our times today, what do you reckon?
Me, I think many people would not admire them for doing as JESUS did, for trying as much as they can to be like HIM, but the exact opposite – I think the churches today are still full of Pharisees – and what is their main trait?
For me, it’s unforgiveness, being judgemental, perhaps even harsh or bitter – because of things they had to experience or because of fear or out of a need to control others…
I think when it comes to the issue of forgiveness, we mustn’t make any mistakes about 3 facts:
- We all get hurt during our lives and we all cause hurt to others – it’s not even possible to live our lives without being abandoned, disappointed or neglected or even violated.
Where human interaction is, where relationships are, where emotions flow, there automatically is a place and a time for hurt and pain as well – intentionally and unintentionally.
Plus, we are also necessarily hurting other people.
Even if we try to avoid it as best as we can, it will happen!
- Not forgiving someone is causing harm to US.
Maybe the other person will suffer from it, too.
But mainly will we.
Because we will hold on to the story, the event, the wrong they did – they may even forget about it, or perhaps they don’t care, maybe they are not able to have compassion for other people’s feelings, probably, if that is so, they themselves have been hurt or even abused and thus died inside… – whatever it is why they have done what they have done, we may never know and we are most definitely not able to do anything about it, about them.
It is not within our power to change another person.
But what we do know and what we can change is how things are on our side, in ourself.
And if we want to heal and move on and free all the stuck attention and become able to focus on something new, on our future, on something positive, on new relationships, on healing, on learning from this “bloody nose”, if we want to let go of this old stuff, there is only one way: we have to forgive them.
For OUR sake.
Not so much for theirs.
And we HAVE to do it.
It doesn’t mean we will forget what they have done and let them (or someone else) do it again.
It doesn’t mean we will indeed “turn the other cheek” as JESUS has suggested – not many people will be that holy and will be able to do that.
It is the standard HE set for us…
And we may be able to do it at some point.
But it is a long way from not being able to or not wanting to forgive to turning the other cheek…Me, I had to learn to forgive someone who has been trying to kill me for more than 7 years now…
And I am saying I had to learn it, because it wasn’t easy.
This person was never sorry and is still not showing any sign of remorse.
In fact, it goes on and on and on – this person has never changed.
Me, I have.
I HAD to.
For MY sake.
And I keep forgiving him over and over and over and over again and I pray for him a lot, daily, sometimes more than once a day – because he needs it.
Because I understand what makes a person use black magic and what makes them serve the devil and what makes them a satanist, an occultist.
I had to learn that they are victims themselves, that they are deceived and that they, too, are deeply hurt and destroyed inside – otherwise they couldn’t even do what they do… and this way, I can relate to what this person is doing and has done.
As if it was a “physical crime” against me.
There is actually no difference.
Just because I wouldn’t be able to show evidence before an earthly court, that doesn’t mean I have not been violated in a criminal way, it is a spiritual crime and GOD will be his judge – and when I consider that, I am almost sorry and truly afraid for this person and wish they would be able to understand that they need to repent before it will be too late – understand that they need HELP.
This was not my immediate reaction.
It took me many YEARS to get to this point.
But I had to.
What helped me was something Derek Prince said:
“Forgiveness is not a feeling, it’s a decision.”
And once I had understood this deep within me, I could repeat it over and over and over again – if necessary, which means if old feelings of anger or desperation would come back… and it gets easier…
- the 3rd thing we must make no mistake about is that if we want ANYTHING from GOD, be it the answer of a prayer, an anointing over our life, peace – forgiveness is the one condition we MUST ALWAYS meet.
Without forgiveness, we will not get anywhere in our life.
And this is not me saying that, it’s OUR LORD HIMSELF.
And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
Matthew 18: 15- 35
15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
18 Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.
19 Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.
20 For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.
21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
23 Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants.
24 And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents.
25 But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made.
26 The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.
27 Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt.
28 But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest.
29 And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.
30 And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt.
31 So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done.
32 Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me:
33 Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee?
34 And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.
35 So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.
Basically, I think the best test is to ask yourself if you can wish this person well.
If you can’t, you’ve still got some work to do.
And don’t you want to use all your life to focus on what you love, on the people you want to be with who love you back, on the things you can create and do…?
GOD will help you to forgive if you ask HIM.
That’s the greatest thing about HIM, HE will never leave you alone with what HE asks of you.
And then the next greatest thing about what HE asks of you is that it will always be for your GOOD and you will never regret doing what HE asks us to do.
The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.”
If you forgive those who hurt you the most, you will see how richly GOD will reward you.
You will have peace and you will feel such a big burden having left you, as if you lost at least 3 stone!
And who wouldn’t want that???
I found a video about forgiveness I really liked, I hadn’t seen it before and I think it is very good!
I found it on the blog of a sister, she has an amazing testimony and her blog is very informative, she exposes the enemy a lot and finds the best information about his snares and plots on the internet – if you haven’t done so, please check her blog out and consider following her!
Here is the link to her article about forgiveness where I found this video:
After watching this, some of you may find me guilty of “gossipping” about this person, because I mention what he has done over and over again.
I don’t consider it gossip though.
The purpose of this entire blog is not to gossip, but to educate and warn and help others avoid the mistakes I made and to keep as many people as possible from harm.
I don’t mention his name anywhere (I did on previous blogs, I even campaigned against him on facebook in the past and wrote to almost all his friends there to expose him and to his mom and to many of his girlfriends as well – that was clearly before I was able to forgive him and when I still wanted him to suffer for what he has done).
No, I don’t tell who he is nowadays, not here and not to the people I talk about offline, no matter how much detail I give about what he has done, I hardly ever tell who he is, it is not important for my healing and for warning others – in fact, I think it’s even more effective if I don’t tell who he is, but talk about the signs how to spot a satanist, because then, people will be careful and watch out for the signs everywhere instead of only watching out for one person and then being ensnared and deceived by the next New Age Occultist…
And I am also not after compassion.
GOD had mercy on me!
That’s all I really need.
Prayers are always appreciated – but that’s not the purpose why I publish these things.
But I do consider it a very good outcome when someone has compassion and feels sorry for me, for what I have gone through.
Because it means that they understand that these things are real and horrific as can be. And that these matters are very serious and dangerous and once they understand this, they will be careful to stay away from this stuff and also observe and take caution for their loved ones…
Plus it may also create a wider awareness for several issues, which is good and needed in those last times that we live in.
If someone has done something terrible to you, something that hurt you so deeply that you have trouble forgiving them, please try to!
There are only benefits, you have nothing to lose.
Because now, you are feeling hurt and you are also trapped.
The pain may not go away immediately, but you will be free from letting it rule over you.
I hope that this will bless, inspire and heal you. And that THE LORD will bless you richly in all areas of your life, that HE will keep you and shine your face upon you and bring you peace. In JESUS’ name I pray. AMEN.
4 thoughts on “About forgiveness”
Great post! Forgiveness is so vital to our walk with God. And it is something that we must do continually sometimes. Walk in forgiveness. I love Christ’s example of forgiveness, forgiving before the apology. Sometimes we won’t receive an apology but for ourselves we must be quick to forgive. Yes, as you stated, the pain may linger, and God is near to the broken-hearted a contrite spirit is both a sacrifice and He will not despise it. Thank you for this post, sister! God bless!
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I love the way you put it, my dear sister,
It is clear that you know what you are talking about and that you’ve had (to have) your practice in forgiveness.
Thank GOD that HE helped you through and helped you understand how important it is.
Only HE can turn pain into gold and let us grow wiser from it.
Thank you so much for reading and commenting.
I feel that we are truly sisters in Christ :>)
GOD bless you!
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Oh yes! I have had to, I have to practice forgiveness daily!
I love this topic, it means so much to me!
I also feel that we are truly sisters in Christ!
GOD bless you!
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Who knows, perhaps we will laugh about all this together one day, perhaps not so soon, but maybe over a cup of tea or manna on the other side of the rainbow…?
Keep pressing and stay raptureable, my dear sister.
GOD bless you!
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