someone just refused to help me – they are professionally helping people in an area I needed help with and they are quite renown worldwide – I know this may sound a bit cryptic, but I don’t want to expose them, I only want to use what has happened to learn from it and to share what I have discovered.
I needed something from that person, at least that’s what I believed.
And this rejection has shown me something very important:
GOD is in control.
When we get something we believe we need – and when we don’t get it.
At first sight, it may be a bad thing to be rejected. But when you look at it deeper, it is not.
In fact, this one is a real blessing and it made me look back on the times when I was rejected before in my life.
So which kinds of rejection do we typically have to deal with, at least most of us?
There is romantic rejection.
When someone does not reciprocate our feelings, this hurts, at least at first, but is it really a bad thing?
Can this person really be meant for us if they don’t love us back?
And is it really a bad thing that we now know and thus don’t waste our time any longer pursuing something that will never happen, that we have been stopped from chasing an illusion…?
Or even worse, is it not much better than if this person had responded to our efforts even though they had not truly been feeling us and thus had wasted even more of our time, perhaps even many years – without loving us back…?
I know it is hard to see it that way, but in the end and looking back – at least that’s what I can say when I look back on the romances that I “missed” in my life, I am Oh sooo glad I did and I thank GOD for every single romantic idea that I ever had that didn’t come to pass!! Sometimes when I remember one of those “ideas”, means when I see or remember someone I once fancied, I even think it is very funny today that I ever did. The woman I am today cannot even understand how someone could find this man attractive and I literally thank GOD that HE didn’t let me waste MY time with them, that HE didn’t let me stray from my path because of them!
Job opportunities also.
When I think of all the careers I fancied and wasn’t able to create, I am so glad that I failed – I will give you one really funny example I was recently reminded of:
many, many years ago, I came across a recruiting campaign in a magazine where they were looking for a new VJ for MTV – like I said, many, many years ago.
I had absolutely no experience in the field and I don’t know why, but I wanted to apply and I made my boyfriend at the time record an application video for me. In fact, I do know why I wanted to apply: I wanted to be part of this hipster lifestyle I imagined I would have working for MTV living in London… I wanted to become someone I thought was cool, I wanted to create a persona in the world, they were all worldly desires driving me… it was fun making the video, we were cracking up while we were taping it, at least I was and it took many hours before I was able to look into the camera straight without bursting out laughing, but it was fun and the end result wasn’t even that bad… I even went to London, found out where the MTV office was (yes, these things were easier at the time!) and brought it there myself – but I didn’t get the job.
My life would have been so different, would have gone down such a different road… and if you know a little bit about the entertainment industry, you will share my take that it would have been a lot worse! Not that my life went perfectly, not at all, but what I did instead, even the worldly things I did and learned , they prepared me for the purpose MY FATHER has for me, for my life here and for glorifying HIM.
Who knows if I would have been saved at all by now?
I mean, I am sure I would have been at some point and in the end, but who knows when?
Only GOD does.
You can say that perhaps, HE would have used my job in the entertainment industry somehow for HIS glory, but I actually prefer to be where I am at now…
And that’s exactly the point I am trying to make here.
All life events have taken us to where we are now.
What happened today has helped me tremendously!
Mainly because I now know that I don’t need this person’s help.
I thought I did, only a few hours earlier, I thought I really, really needed the help of this person.
Now I know that I don’t.
It was something that is really important to me that I asked them to help me with – VERY important.
And now I not only know that I don’t need this person to help me, I even learned that I need nobody else’s help but GOD’s with this matter.
Plus, I even know that this person would not have been able to help me at all, otherwise, GOD would not have let them fail so miserably.
This is a huge learning for me! Someone whom I considered to be really good at what they are doing, much better than me – GOD showed me that they are actually fake and completely unprofessional, very insecure and absolute crap at what they are doing! In fact, they were showing a level of incapability I was very surprised about and I am now even worried about others who will trust them!
Now, isn’t that a blessing that I didn’t get to receive their “help” – even one of the greatest blessings?
For me, it is.
It is encouraging, it is faith building, it is strengthening – I mean, I believed this person is a CAPACITY in their field… and then, they behaved so terribly unprofessionally… and not only did HE spare me from them, on top of that, THE LORD showed me that I can solve this matter easily without them.
What a surprise!
A positive one!
THE LORD showed me that I am better than I thought I was in this, with HIS help, with HIM on my side!
THANK YOU JESUS!
What HE also showed me is that HE wants me to rely on HIM, not on persons – for nothing. That HE will show me, that HE will teach me, that HE will bring me through… no matter what it is, that HE will take care of me and of my cares and concerns.
HE showed me and it really only dawned on me when this person let me down that MY FATHER wants to be so close to me, wants to help me with everything I need help with.
It is sad having to admit this, but without this rejection, I would most likely not have felt the love of MY FATHER so intensely, so deeply and directly… and I have taken another important and huge step closer towards HIM, have become more intimate with MY BELOVED SAVIOR because of this rejection from a person…
Isn’t that amazing?
THANK YOU JESUS!
The benefit of a rejection is often times only visible much later, today was a wonderful exception and I am so blessed and happy about it…
In the end, many things we want and think we need or need help with are only worldly – at least the things I used to want… and what could they be worth compared to the love of OUR FATHER or compared to what HE has gifted us with?
This puts the whole concept of rejection into perspective, don’t you think?
It may be hard to remember in the very moment, but we are all a work in progress, are we not…
Me, I will try to remember that nothing is really worth losing my cool over, not as long as I am in CHRIST and held by HIM and as long as HE has my back – and that no human help or deed or thing could ever count anything compared to what HE has for me.
If that’s what I have truly learned from today’s rejection, that’s been an almost a priceless event.
For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?
I hope that this will inspire, heal and bless you and that THE LORD will bless you abundantly in all areas of your life, that HE will keep you and shine HIS face upon you and bring you peace. In JESUS’ name I pray. AMEN.